Diary of a baby daddy part 4

So let’s dive into the life of a”Baby daddy” who is in a situation that about 25%of them find themselves in.
The living situation is as such; he us now living with his 2nd or third “Baby Mama “he has raised all of her and his children and kids that she has with other men also. This is her first relationship where the”baby daddy”isn’t abusive, and he actually works and has raised her other kids.
She views him as weak because he won’t physically abuse her or even argue with her, and because of this the tables have turned and now she’s the abuser. First thing she does is make sure she can put him out of the house. How does she accomplish this you ask? Well there’s several ways, and the legal, welfare, and state assistance programs are all setup to help her in this process.
One of the first things she does is keep him off the apartment lease. What this insured is Power over any and everything that is said or done in the home. If she don’t like how her day is going,” You Can Get Out”is flying out of her mouth, if someone makes her mad and she’s intimidated by them,so she’s gonna find her “whipping boy”& take it out on him, and if he makes any attempt to defend himself, she yells”YOU CAN GET OUT”quick.
Here is where the system helps her out, if for some reason he is on the lease, how does she manipulate the system this time? Easy, she goes and gets a Temporary Restraining Order or calls the police and say he hit her or she’s afraid of him and out he goes!
Now keep in mind the type of female we are talking about, she comes from a long line of system abusers.She has never held down a job, and her income comes from what the system provides, such as W2, Ssi disability,(which was setup for her by her mom,when she was a baby, because this was one of her moms means of income) Section8& subsidize housing.
Now the other part of her plan kicks in, or has already kicked in, which involves the Child Support System (please read”Diary of a baby daddy parts 1-3″).She already had that setup long time ago, because the system encourage the”baby mamas”to open a support case even if the mom & dad are living together and he is working and provides for his kids and the kids she has with other men.They will even tell the mom”you guys aren’t married yet and what if you change your mind, at least you will have a support order already in place”, which is legal advice,and they’re not her attorney, and its just wrong in so many ways. So another power tool she has is already in place like I said, because he has a support order in place and they’re garnishing his wages or he is falling behind on support, which will result in a arrest warrant for contempt being issued, all the while he is living in the home with her and the kids,and supports them financially and emotionally. Why is she able to do this? Why would she do this? Why would she want to do this? Its because the system is setup for women like her to abuse it if they’d like to, its because she can do it, and because she has been raised by a woman who was raised by a woman who consider this normal. The problem is, she does this to a Good man and not the deadbeat who beat, cheat, stole from her etc.
This post is dedicated to exposing the”DEADBEAT BABY MAMA”, the system that not only helps her be trifling, but even encourage her behavior and makes it possible for her to teach her child what her mom taught her.Also to shine the light on several facts like; these women exists and they’re more out there than society wants us to know, and that society needs to stop generalizing all”Baby Daddys”into one group, because not only are all”Baby Daddys”not alike, the good ones get punished severely by this generalization, and there isn’t much he can do about it.
Think about this the next time you put down”All”men who are called “baby daddys”,or the next time your friend talks bad about her kids father and you just realized that she falls into that category talked about in this entry of”DIARY OF A BABY DADDY”

Your opinions are important, so leave your thoughts here so we can all dialog, and then go back to facebook, google+, twitter or wherever else you may have seen this blog, and leave your comments there also. Don’t forget this is the fourth entry in the series”DIARY OF A BABY DADDY”, so check out parts 1-3 right here on my wordpress site.
The post from this blog will be included in my upcoming book so lookout for more on this subject and subjects like it, and I’ll keep you updated on the books progress and its upcoming publication.STAYBLESSED PEOPLE!

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Diary of a baby daddy part 3

This part of the series I want to back track and focus on the relationship with the kids mother and why most baby daddy and baby mama unions fail. Let’s start off with the popular reasons they don’t work.
Mr. Pimp, aka”BABY DADDY”never was taught the proper meaning of the word”Man”so right away what he thinks a man way of thinking, acting and duties he shoudt be. So what happens the so called man spends more time with his buddies than the woman in his life and what’s worse is he finds nothing wrong with this behavior and not only defends his actions but considers it normal and even has the nerves to feel that his woman should be lucky she has a man like him. Now this is just a little bit of what’s the daily life of this couple, and a small example of what the”baby daddy”has in store for her.
Since im investigating why these relationships fail, I have to do some male bashing, but really that’s not what im doing, im just telling the truth, and the truth hurts sometimes. The man not only neglects his duties as her partner, lover, friend, but neglects his father duties like these duties never exists, or they shouldn’t exist. Late nights out with his boys, lying, cheating, physical abuse, emotional abuse, abuse, abuse, abuse, and in between the abuse more kids are made and brought into this abuse filled household.
This scene is being played out across the country everyday, and from this little boys are being taught how to be”baby daddys, and little girls are being taught how to be”baby mamas”. Boys taught how to be abusers, and girls being taught how to get abused, its sad but true and we all know it.
In my next part of this series I will examine what happens next, which is in most cases the mom becomes Mom & Daddy! Leave your thoughts at the bottom where there’s a space for it.Follow me at Coreyrebel5 on twitter also.

Diary of a baby daddy (part 2)

I know because of the history black men have with taken care of their kids is horrible, and im not trying to changed the past or even the future of how black men are viewed, but what I am doing is putting myself in a situation where my kids will never know first hand how black men are acting or even expected to act, because all they’ll know is that their dad loved them to death and took care of them financially.
Something that I notice is becoming almost a trend to society as a whole is that men like myself are finding it harder and harder to be a successful”baby daddy”as we are called. There’s several reasons for the hardships a guy like me face and several groups of people in our daily life that has a sole purpose to make life hard on dads like myself. Before I get to naming these people and agencies I want you the reader to do me a favor, and that’s ask yourself”have you ever been one of these people or worked for anyone who has been guilty of making life for a socalled baby daddy life harder than usual or even miserable”?. The answer may shock you, because if you work or worked for somebody who is guilty of this you may have been brainwashed or even sublimely trained to think this way and may not have even known it. The same could be said for everyday people, your buddy could have a deadbeat”baby daddy”and you’ve watched her struggle and being mistreated and Boom! You’ve turned into one of the masses who hate all”baby daddies”because like I said there’s no separation by society of the deadbeat dad and the real dads like myself.
I don’t want an award or a pat on the back or to be treated special because I take care of my kids financially and emotionally, just stop grouping me in with the deadbeat dad, I DESERVE THAT AT LEAST…..DON’T I? leave your opinion on this subject and always GODBLESS!!!